Today I had two incidents happen that really spoke a lot about singleness today.
In the early afternoon a co-worker looked over at me and said, "Have so-n-so and such-n-such broken up?" I did not know what sparked the conversation, but let her know they had, and of an awkward exchange I had with them that led to me knowing this news. Doing so not to give details (which I didn't) of the break up, but more about the situation, so she would not enter into the awkwardness as well. Then it hit me and I asked, "How did you know?" She went on to tell me that on the guy's MySpace page it said he was single. I guess previously it had said "In A Relationship".
I was going to grab a fun afternoon snack with some friends and the question came from one to the other, "So, are you and such-n-such officially dating now?" She replied that they are "official now". The next question out of my friends mouth was "have you updated your facebook?"
What a display of the times when a dtr (defining the relationship) not only happens privately between two people, but gets published to the world online. I remember another friend who said that she and her boyfriend decided to go and change their status on MySpace to "in a relationship". It was a turning point in their relationship. I know others that when things go south cannot take that ex's pictures off their facebook, myspace, or virb fast enough.
I am not sure how I feel about this. What is the point? What is the purpose? Is it to celebrate the stages and steps in a relationship? We were joking today about what would happen if a guy proposed over facebook? He could send a gift of a ring (a whole $1 gift) and ask for a status change to engaged. Now that is romantic!!
Not too deep down, I feel that this public display is yet another way of showing people we are loved. It is a declaration that we are not alone. Choosing the "single" or "looking for someone" options these programs offer are depressing. I would much rather put "in a relationship", "engaged" or "married". It is a statement, not only about our current condition, but us. Not sure... I may need to think on that more. It is just crazy how we let the human relationships we are in (or are not in) define our status, instead of the Godly relationship that we are in for eternity define us instead.
Just wanted to get you thinking. Hope that did it :)